Psychological needs may include power, friendship, belonging, respect, etc. Since we can never be in someone’s head and completely understand what’s going on in there, psychological needs can be very difficult to pinpoint. There are so many needs we have as human beings and trying to guess which one is causing conflict, is just that – a guessing game. Don’t assume that you know the source or try to fix it – that gets us into more trouble sometimes. Instead, take a stance of compassion. After all, we have all experienced psychological needs ourselves and if we are honest, we just might be the ones having needs during a conflict. Ask people questions to try to understand their perspectives. If possible, try addressing the underlying need, in order to resolve the conflict.
Many disputes involve a combination of these levels of conflict. The level of difficulty to solve these conflicts increases with each level.